Saturday, March 21, 2015

The big question: Minivan or SUV? Part 1

            At some point every parent considers his or her options for a family hauler.  Do I need more space than a sedan?  How many kids do we or will we have?  Are we planning to do a lot of activities like soccer and camping?  What kind of image do we want to present?  What company produces the most reliable product?  These are just a few or the many questions to consider when looking for the ideal family vehicle, not to mention the price of entry and cost of ownership propositions.  My purpose here is to discuss two of the most common family vehicles: the minivan and the medium sized SUV or crossover.  These are the vehicles you see most frequently with a “baby on board” placard, the family or honor roll stickers in the back window or (most telling) the exhausted mom or dad playing taxi shuttling the little ones from one place to another while singing nursery rhymes.  This is a major decision that parents will deal with on a daily basis; get it wrong and you could be regretting it for years.

            To answer this question I will be testing two new offerings from Kia: the all-new 2015 Sedona SXL and a recently refreshed Sorento to be reviewed at a later date.  I was able to arrange these reviews after meeting the Kia marketing team at the 2015 Dad 2.0 Summit in San Francisco.  At that event the entire Kia fleet was made available to the conference attendees to test around the city and review with the #kiadad hash tag.  Needless to say, I was very impressed with Kia.  I think many Americans would be skeptical of me saying that Kia is a quality brand with innovative products and a truly excellent value proposition.  Let us be honest, due to the relative newness of the brand in the US and previously below average vehicles that were sold on the cheap, many Americans don’t really want a Kia.  If you are one of those people let me level with you, it is time to give Kia some serious consideration when making your next vehicle purchase!

            I took the keys to our Sedona on Friday for a seven-day test that will include a trip (with two grandparents) to Disneyland from our home in San Diego.  The first thing I will say is that this van is a real looker!  Clad in a shimmering rich brown color with chrome wheels and a distinctively modern style this is not your parents’ old town and country from the 80s!  Yes it is still a minivan but if more minivans looked this good I think more young parents would warm to the idea of driving one.  Open the power sliding doors and no less than ten cup holders and at least seven different places to plug electronics in for charging (two of them are outlets just like home!) greet your family; two things that are crucial for a modern family.

Since this is a top of the line model there are several features that make the owners manual a little more necessary such as: driving mode, heated and cooled seats, heated steering wheel, lane departure warning, blind spot monitoring, adaptive cruise control and the 360 degree multi-view camera system which displays on the NAV screen.  The jury is still out on how useful or necessary all these bells and whistles are but they will be fun to play with.  One feature my daughter has already shown a love for is the huge second and third row sliding moon roof.  On our way to the lake for our Friday run she was crying so I decided to throw a Hail Mary and open the roof.  She instantly quieted down and was mesmerized for the rest of the ride… Priceless in my book.

            So far I have only had the chance to drive it around town and on the freeway to my weekend Navy Reserve time but my initial impression is very good.  The van is substantial (in a good way), nimble, quiet and responsive.  I was especially impressed with how quickly I was able to complete a U-turn with a tight turning radius and the perfectly positioned and very large dead pedal for my left foot.  When it comes to vehicles, I think the details are really what matter.  I also decided that this test was the perfect time to try out our daughter’s new “big girl” car seat.  She will ride around in the Britax Advocate we bought a few months ago based on positive online reviews.  It is a monster of a car seat with large side impact cushions and a plethora of adjustments that will make it her car seat for the next few years.  Installation in the van was simple and straightforward using the LATCH system that has become standard in vehicles with passenger seats since 2002.  I put it in the driver’s side second row captains chair which, combined with the large sliding door opening, should make entry and exit of the seat fairly easy.  I hope she likes it.


            Tomorrow we will be leaving bright and early for the land of magic in Anaheim with Mom, Dad, Baby, Grandma and Grandpa.  I will have them test every seating position, ease of entry and exit, comfort of the ride and give any feedback they think important.  As empty nesters, Grandma and Grandpa are just as likely to have a minivan as I am (they actually do); according to Motor Trend, 45% of minivan buyers don’t have a child at home anymore.  What they have to say will be just as if not more important to the industry as my impressions.  Let the family haulin’ fun begin!

Saturday, March 14, 2015

Letter to my daughter on her 18th birthday

It is 11pm on the night before your first birthday; in about 5 hours you will officially be one year old. I am sitting in the dark of our family room typing away on my laptop (a machine us old people used to write things on and you probably think is obsolete by now).  I can hear the gentle hum of your sound machine through the monitor next to me, the dryer is going and the clock ticks away as always. You don't realize this yet, but you are my everything.  Our little family means the world to me and there is nothing I wouldn't do for you and Mom.

Witnessing you grow up this last year has been the most precious time of my life.  The love I feel in my heart is like nothing I could have imagined before you came into this world.  It is funny to think about my adult life before you, what I thought fun was or how I spent all that "free time." You make life infinitely more interesting, you make Mom and I an even stronger couple, and you make me a better man.  Thank you for the last year of joy, excitement and surprises!

Now allow me take this moment and look into the future.  Obviously it is impossible to know what will happen in the next 17 years, but humor your old man for a moment and let me dream.  On your 18th birthday I see an amazing young woman full of life, surrounded by friends and family (some siblings perhaps?), and getting ready to embark on the next chapter of her life, whatever that might be.  When you were one, your personality was already big and you were always smiling.  I can't wait to see that smile each morning and it will never get old.

You will probably notice that my version of the future isn't very specific and that is intentional.  Right now, your future can be anything.  You are nothing but walking potential right now and you will be in charge of what happens over the course of your life.  Mom and I will always be there to guide you, but I have every faith in you and know that you will make your life something spectacular.  Whatever you do, always remember that Mom and I are extremely proud of you and want nothing more than you to be happy and healthy.

Let me leave you with a few worlds of wisdom before you roll your eyes and leave this page.  When I was 18, I thought I knew everything.  I had life locked down, knew where I would be in 20 years and had an opinion on pretty much everything.  What I didn't know was that life would throw so many curve balls at me that I couldn't possibly predict my future and now I can tell you that at 30 I know less about life then when I was 18.  My point is that you should never be so closed-minded as I was to not allow for more possibilities with life.  Now don't get me wrong, I have no regrets, but I can only imagine what might have been if I was just a little more open to taking some bigger chances, living just a little more on the edge, or (gasp) making a few more mistakes.  Be open to life, have faith it will all work out and be willing to take some risks.

Next, never forget family.  You may have a huge group of friends, co-workers, and classmates, but none of them will be there like family.  If there is one thing you can always count on, it is the love of the people who watched you grow up, the people who love you unconditionally, and the people ready to listen when you need to talk.  Cliché be damned, family is forever; you are stuck with us, accept it and keep in touch with everyone.

Finally, I want you to always remember to take the time to marvel at the mundane.  When you were one, you would spend hours in the front yard looking at leaves, blades of grass and twigs.  With each new specimen you would declare "wooooow, oooohhh!"  You would point at a passing bird with wonder in your eyes and excitement in your face looking at me as if to say "Dad look, I found something new."  I wish we could all be so amazed at life, because the world around us is full of wonderful things that we often pass by or take for granted.  Remind yourself every so often to take a new route home (don't be late or Mom will worry), explore something new, and just be a kid again.

Your old softy of a dad is getting all misty eyed, so it is time to pack it up and get to bed.  I can hear you stirring in your crib now, which means I may have missed my first window of sleep.  I am on my way sweetie; my shoulder is always ready for you to rest on.  

Love always,

Dad



Daddy will always be your very first Valentine!

Saturday, March 7, 2015

When Mommy doesn't feel well

I have to tell you, those single parents out there deserve more credit!  I can't imagine having a child and a full time job without my wife there to help me.  The last few days she had been down for the count with what we will politely call a stomach bug.  During that time it has been mostly me and my little lady on our own while mommy rests and eats bread.  She has tried to help when possible but there is only so much you can do when your stomach wants to kill you.  On one hand, it has been great getting so much quality time with my daughter, but on the other hand it has been absolutely exhausting!

Tonight I am up baking the week's veggies for lunch and getting laundry done while trying to find a new nanny to fill in for some child care conflicts we have coming up.  Two nights ago it was baking a cake for our daughter's first birthday cake smash photos that have been scheduled for months.  There are many people out there that would laugh at me right now, but it is a lot to keep up with while also trying to prepare for my week at work and evening classes.

The bottom line is: being a good parent can be extremely hard work, but the late nights are worth it cause I get to see that beautiful face in the morning...  Oh that's right, not tomorrow morning, i've got Sunday reserve duty and daylight savings time is gonna make that extra fun.  

Have fun tomorrow honey, I hope that bug has flown away!



Sweet Potato, Squash and Zucchini; she loves healthy foods!